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News Outlook Your Hometown Newspaper January 16, 2014 - 13 CONTRIBUTING WRITER By Harry Patrick What we see when watching others depends on the clarity of the win- dow through which we look. The sound of the rain on a tin roof has always been a comforting sound to me. The room where I've set up my office is lo- cated in the smallest room of my trailer. The window looks out on the fields and trees in the distance. Do others see what I see when I look at that scene through my win- dow? Do others hear what I hear when the rain falls on the tin roof above my head? Probably not, but I've had a lot to think about over the holidays and I've contemplated those two thoughts, "do you hear what I hear? = do you see what I see?" I've thought about not writ- ing any more for the pa- per, a position I've played out in my head from time to time. My editor deals with me on a very pro- fessional level when I'm like this. He leaves the situation up to me. He said "the door is always open", so I'm walking through it this week. You see, he hears what I say. He sees what I see. I don't know if he feels what I feel, but he is in my ballpark when he says he understands me. I'm not an analytical person, but from talk- ing to my counselor and listening to experts talk about what I view as "my problems", I've come to the conclusion that the weight hanging around my neck like an albatross Who do you think you are."? who read the paper, who couldn't care about me one way or the other and I now believe they were the people I was trying to impress, trying to get them to "come over to my side". But, I've turned a corner in that thought process and I now realize those people aren't worth the effort. I don't need everybody's approval for what I say and do and think. It has been said by several psychological ex- perts that if the person you are talking to, can answer "yes" to these three questions, then that person has given you validation. 1. Can you hear me? 2. Can you see me? 3. Does what I say mean anything to you? Like I said, I've had a lot to think about over these two holidays and through actions and words, I know the peo- ple who I consider true friends do, indeed, vali- date me. A "true" friend is someone who allows you into their life, no matter what you bring to the table. Four people I 've known for a long time answered "yes" to these three questions, by their actions and their words toward me. When I real- ized what was happening to me after I talked to these people, the weight, the albatross, fell from around my neck. my feelings. They all "dismissed" me. Those people I don't need any more, either. But, these four people who validated me over the past two weeks said they had always valued my friendship, my con- versations, my beliefs, had always accepted me for who and what I was. I'm not going to try to pull the wool over anybody's eyes and say this "validation" issue is the answer to all my problems, but it's a step in the right direction of my goal of having some peace come into my life during the last years I am here on earth. But, I still have my mo- ments, my "meltdowns". There are days when I still get angry over "un- resolved issues" like the ones with my ex-wife and the people I "let" take advantage of my vulner- abilities. I still believe, and I will say it again, I believe the person I turned out to be, the person who makes irrational decisions at times, was formed in the darkness of a house on Sour Springs Road over a period of years and I don't feel like I've ever fully escaped that dark- ness, but at times, I do see the "light" and for those times, I am grate- ful, but the years I have spent fighting those nightmarish memories have taken a toll on me of my personality, that anger that raises its ugly head from time to time, when I least expect it, coming out of the blue and smacking me upside the head. It is not pretty. But, I'm not going to defend my mood swings any more to any one. My past history has been laid out there in public for ev- eryone to see. I allowed you to look at it. I gave you permission to view my life through my writ- ten words, so if you're looking for something to criticize about me, I don't believe you're going to find anything I haven't al- ready told you.The plain and simple fact is, some of you readers don't like to hear the truth and you respond defensively, not having anything more to do with me. That's your own albatross you're car- rying around your neck and until you get rid of it, you will not find peace. Secrets and lies will eventually destroy you if you don't one day "own" them. I'm not ashamed to admit I am illegitimate, grew up in poverty, am a surivor of sexual and emotional abuse, that I was treated less than human by some people who were in my life at a certain time. I'm not ashamed to admit any of that, because none of it was my fault. It was by the "unlucky" draw of the cards dealt to me. a "religious" person but not necessarily a "spiri- tual" one, you know, "in touch with the universe", what other people are feeling. Maybe I "feel" too deeply, I don't think I do, because things touch me deeply, very deeply and I don't consider it a weakness, I consider it a blessing. My individuality is very important to me, too. I've seen people lose their individuality when they form a relationship with another person, their "significant other". That is a dangerous thing to lose, that indi- vidualism, because that's what separates us as human beings, defines our uniqueness from another person. If you throw that out the win- dow when you form what you believe will be a last- ing relationship, you are throwing who you are, out the window. And as an individual, I've let you in on the most personal details of my life, but no one ex- cept God has the right to judge me on any level. When Phil Robert- son from "Duck Dynas- ty" spewed his hatred against a culture of peo- ple who were not like him (thank God!), a cousin of mine agreed with him 100%, saying gay people were less than human, less than godly, like dirt under their feet. I'm paraphrasing, but that's what I heard. People like Phil Rob- ertson and my cousin hear what they want to hear. They see what they want to see. They profess to be Christians, but the God they say they wor- ship is not the God who walks with me every day. My God doesn't hate me, doesn't judge me, doesn't abandon me when I need help. That belief in Him is so strong, no one can shake it, not the Phil Robertsons of the world or the people who think like him. I understand he and my cousin are protected undei" the Freedom of Speech Act to think like they want to and it is their right to think what they will, but I don't be- lieve the Freedom of Speech Act supports unmitigated hatred and prejudice. What we see when watching others depends on the clarity of the win- dow through which we look. Who do you think you are, the one who looks through a dirty window and makes a judgment call or are you the person who cleans the window through which you look so you can see the real picture? Who do you think you are? You see, and it's a hard thing for me to admit, I tried to win people's ap- proval of me through various means = helping them out, lending them money, taking them to the doctor, loaning them my car, giving tlem a mentally and emotion- ally. The one person who was a "witness" to my childhood, my sister Bet- ty, is no longer here to say she was a witness, so I'm the only one who can attest to what happened A lot of things I do now and care about now are a reflection of the environ- ment that shaped me. I know I'm not a good housekeeper, I don't have to be told that. I know I'm antisocial, I don't have to be told that. I don't have Happy 95 th Birthday r Noble Adams for most of my adult life;":place to stay, trying to is the fact I've never felt get them into rehab an[ people "validated" me = as a person they want to listen to, as a person they want in their "social circle", or as a person to lend credibility to. So, I am more than mildly surprised when I am told that a lot of people like what I have to say. Some- how that fact didn't total- ly sink in, until recently. I know there are people the list goes on = I always thought these kind acts by me would account for something in the long run, i.e., that these peo- ple I was doing all these things for, would "re- ally like" me, but it didn't work out that way. When they were "through" with me, they went their own way, without so much as a thought about Bid Notice The Bath County EMS is accepting bids for a Mechanical CPR device. Specifications for this device are available at the Bath County EMS office. You may contact them at 606-674-8158. The deadline for accepting bids will be January 23, 2014. Published in the Bath County News-Outlook 01.09.14 and 01.16.14 Appalachian ChalleNGe Academy Harlan, Kentucky Seeking 16-18 year olds for Class 04 Accepting Applications through January 19th 22 week residential program Earn GED or recover high school credits [ NO COST to participants l Call Toll Free 1-855-KY-NGYCP (1-855-596-4927) PUBLIC HEARING NOTICE The U.S. Department of Commerce, Economic Development Administration (EDA) is considering a request for Federal assistance from the City of Owingsville to construct a project on Kendall Springs Road, Bath County, KY. Thus, the purpose of this notice is to insure compliance with the National Environmental Policy Act of 1969 and U.S. Presidential Executive Orders 11990 - Protection of Wetlands and/or 11988-Floodplain Management, pertaining to construction of an equalization basin and pretreatment facility at the Owingsville Industrial Park WWTP located at the following coordinates: 38 7' 36.806" N, 83 46' 11.452" W Detailed engineering informatior will be on file and available for review between 9:00 A.M. and 3:00 P.M. at the City of Owingsville's office. A public hearing will be held on Monday, January 27, 2014 from 11:00 am to 12:00 pm at Owingsville City Hall located at: 19 Goodpaster Avenue Owingsville, KY 40360 606.674.6361 Persons desiring to comment on the aforementioned project pertaining to its impact on the area's wetlands or floodplain may do so by submitting written comments to: Regional Environmental Officer Atlanta Regional Office U. S. Department of Commerce Economic Development Administration 401 W. Peachtree Street, NW, Suite 1820 Atlanta, Georgia 30308-3516 Phone No. 404-730-3002 Comments will be accepted through 4:30 pm on February 17, 2014. The project will be located in the Kendall Springs - Bath County Industrial Park area of Bath County. Published in the Bath Count[ News Outlook on 01.16.14 to a'neov certain pe= riod in my life. I don't like to dwell on that aspect of my life, because it does make me angry, the anger ly- ing just underneath the surface, ready to come forward. I don't like that part of mIf life t that part a lot of money or mate- rial things, I don't have to be told that, but I am comfortable in my own skin, my own sexuality and foremost, comfort- able in my own spiritual- ity. Yes, I said spirituality, not my religion, my spiri- tuality. I think ]fou can be Thank y00,u The family of Bobby L. Cole would like to thank everyone for all the food, flowers, cards, and prayers. Words cannot describe how touched we were by all the shows of support from those around us. It would be difficult to thank each one of you individually. However, we would like to send a special thanks to Bro. Lowell Rice and Bro. Anthony Anderson for their kind words. We would like to thank Taul Funeral Home for a lovely service. Also, a special thanks to the Owingsville Christian Church and their women's group for the wonderful meal they prepared afterwards. Janet, ]ennifer, Rick and Anita Pleasant View furmture % I, Jeremy Bailey, would like to declare my H candidacy for the office of Property H Valuation Administrator. I am the son of Elginll (Jr) & Linda Bailey. I am also the grandson II of the late Elgin & Vivian Bailey and the late ii James & Alma Wells. I am a lifelong resident ii of Bath County. I am a 1998 graduate of Bath Ii County High School and 2003 graduate of [I Morehead State University. I look forward tol[ meeting each of you in the upcoming months, l[ Your support is greatly appreciated. II II Advertisement paid for by candidate. [I t/ Love you and proud of you! Buster and Janice Born Jan. 17, 1919 S::: r  hd; a:u 7::bt Saal e Come see Dan for a great deall full listing. Since 1991 3 1/2 miles SE of Flemingsburg, Ky. on Rt. 32 (next to the Valero Gas Station) 606-845-0540 1-800-710-4822 Quality is our Goal! Ask for Sam Yoder or Dan Esh , o ,,: . . . Dwaine Curran runs for 72na[ District State Representative I Dwaine Curran, now officially a Republican candidate for 72nd District State Representative signed his paperwork at the Bath County Clerks office on Monday morning. Shown with him are, from left, Chuck Kesler, Bath County Republican Party Chairman; John Bradley, Korean War Veteran and long-time Bath County farmer; and Rev. Lowell Rice. Curran said, "It's an honor to have these men stand witk me" Curran said. Curran's address is P.O. Box 54, Sharpsburg, KY. 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