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I i I ii Your Hometown Newspaper November 28, 2013 -.11 I i , r . ~ ~ f i . .y .,rry It is said that the heart and the mind process grief dif- terently. The heart feels like itis aching, there is tears. I don't know enough about the makeup of the human body to under- stand how that happens, but it hai nS. The mind processes a death sort of logically, try- ing to figure out what hap- pened, where it happened, who it to, things that are logical and rational and understandable. But, when the sadness and grief come from a death that was unexpected and violent, the processes of the heart and mind become in- termingled. On a Sunday night, Oc- tober 6, 2013, a rainy night when the sky opened up with a fury, my close and dear friend Ray Ellis, on his way to church with his wife, Nellie, was struck by a car on Slate Avenue and later died at the hospital. At the visitation, I said goodbye to one of the closest friends I have ever had. Ironically, that particular day was the 4th anniver- sary of the death one of my rescue cats, Maggie, who I accidentally killed under my rediner. She was about two months old. The rain had been coming down so hard,:l couldn't go to Mag- gie's on October 6th. I know somepeople will think rm crazier than I have been diagnosed, but a death of a soul that is close to me in my life is still a death that is to be mourned, whether it's a friend, a family member or one of my beloved pets. I tried to keep my mind busy that night, trying not to think about Maggie for a while. I logged on to Face- book just to see what was going on in town. That's where I saw the news of Ray's accident. It's hard for me, has got- ten harder for me over the past couple of years, to go to funerals, because since I've been in Bath County, I have been to so many, I be- came almost numb to the proceedings and the grief pushes me to a place I don't like to be, close to the edge of my mental limitations, so I didn't go to Ray's funeral. Ray was one of a kind, in a good way and he and I first met at the Outlook of- fice when I started working there over ten years ago. I don't remember the exact year we met, honestly, num- bers escape me at times, but I believe I have known Ray for about 12-13 years. I don't make friends eas- ily, mainly because I don't trust many people, that's why my circle of friends in- cluded Ray and a few more. Ray and I sat side-by-side at the Outlook office and ex- changed a lot of stories over the many days we worked together. He and Nellie owned the Kountry Kettle Restaurant l l in Miller Plaza at that time. It was a very popular place that I ate at quite often and where, on occasion, Marga- ret Metz and I would have lunch and where we would celebrate our May birth- days together. Margaret passed away this year also and I look back on the yesterdays she and I shared at work and at the Kountry Kettle. She holds a special place in my heart and I cherish those lunches she and I would have, Ray sometimes join- ing us for a cup of coffee and some gossip. There was a table in the back of the restaurant that Ray claimed as his personal domain, but I managed to wrangle my way to the table on many occasions and fi- nally it was just natural to go to that table when I walked into the Kettle. One night, I even washed dishes when one of their employees didn't show up. Sometimes, when the res- taurant closed and the last customer had left, I would stop by after Ray called me and said he would like some company. We would sit at that back table and talk about everything. There was nothing off limits as to what we would talk about. I knew he could keep some thing to himself if I told him to do so and I made the same promise to him. Occasionally, we would have a drink. Some people I know, if they had known about that, would have frowned and pointed fingers at both of us, but neither one of us cared what people "would" say and we enjoyed the moment while it lasted. Ray was a good person, with a good heart and a personality that would win over whoever came into his circle. Recently, he had battled a medical crisis and was on his way to recovery, I have been told and I had not spo- ken to him or seen him in recent weeks, but I would think about the good times we had and the laughter we shared when I accom- panied him on his trips to Sam's Club to buy supplies for the restaurant. Some- times we would go to Max and Erma's to have lunch or sometimes we would go to the Waffie House to indulge in food that was not really good for us, but tasted heav- enly. I'm not going to dwell on the aspects of the acci- dent because I don't want to remember him that way. He is more than a highway statistic, he is more than a victim, he was a friend who accepted me, warts and all, without judgment. Some- times he would be critical of some of my decisions, but it was always constructive criticism. He attracted people to him because he knew how to make a person feel com- fortable, he knew how to carry the conversation and he had a wicked sense of humor. I will miss all of that, but most of all, I willmiss those talks we had over those drinks late at night in a closed restaurant, when the world seemed far away and it was just two friends enjoy- ing that moment in time. I pray he is resting in God's loving arms and will be at eternal peace. It is God's decision to call someone Home and I am not one to question that de- cision. I can only grieve and pay my respects to a man I loved as a friend, by hon- oring him with the words I have written here. It's what I do best, write my thoughts down so others can read them. There is a Beafle's song that I think sums up my life at this momem = 'There's a shadow hanging over me, but I believe in yesterday". Yesterday doesn't have to be literally the day that has just passed, it can mean the years that make up a per- son's life and memories. My circle of friends has diminished by one, but I do believe in yesterday, where the memories of my friend Ray Ellis will live forever. Rest in peace, Ray, will see you one of these days where we can talk among the clouds. I know our time on earth is limited and no one is promised tomorrow, so that is why we should embrace our blessings while we can and be ~anMul for the pe9- pie we 10ve and enjoy the moments as they happen. : And so, on this upcom- ing Thanksgiving Day, I am thankful for the blessings in my life = my family, my friends, my physical health, my beloved fur babies (Boo, Darby, Toot, Emma, Pete, Penny, Linus, Lucy Belle and Charlie Girl). My faith is still strong, but I am a "work in progress", still slipping and sliding my way toward Heaven, falling on my face and getting back up and embracing the life I have created for myself. ! I hope someday, as my time on Earth comes to end, I get to see my babies again, the ones that have passed away (my dogs = Nikki, Nugget, Chocks, Benjamin and my cats = Beanie, Maggie, Matilda, Lola and Topper). As you can see, I've losta lot of precious souls in my lifetime and a piece of was broken everytime a death occured, but God al- lowed me to move on, one day at a time. I was broken, but I put myself back together, one day at a time so I could take care of myself and the nine babies that live with me. I am thankful also that I have lived my life the way I wanted to and I hope I have done some good and made a difference somewhere, because I still "believe in yesterday." i i nll I Photo bY Cecil Lawson ChdaSan Social Services held its annual Thanksgiving Benefit Dinner and Auction SUlldey nftemoon at the Owingsville First Church of God Fellowship Hall. Shown above are local volunteer auctioneers Phil Copher, Frosty McKenzie, Tom Woods, with Doug Stone and Howard Stone, not pictured, taking the highest bids for the numerous Items donated for the auction. The money raised went toward Chris- thin Social Services building fund. The non-profit social services ministry serves Bath and Manifee Counties and has provided food, clothing, utility assistance, rent/ ~ assistance, flro assistance, and medical transportation to well over a famillea in 2012-13. Please continue to help them through the holidays ~l~)lNMing, donations, and charitable gifts. 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